Book and Music Recommendations by Members of GFW’s Support Pal Network


“Emotional Alchemy.” Tara Bennett-Goleman. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $10.46.

“Getting Through the Day: Stratagies for Adults Hurt As Children.” Nancy J Napier. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $11.53.

“The Post Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook: A Guide to Healing, Recovery and Growth.” Glenn R. Schiraldi, PhD. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $12.89.

“Start Where You Are.” Pema Chodron. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $10.36.

“The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life after Child Sexual Abuse.” Staci Haines. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $16.47.


“Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse.” Author: Mic Hunter. (Amazon rating 4 stars). $10.17.

“The Beast: A Journey Through Depression.” Author Tracy Thompson. (Amazon rating 5 stars). Available used.

“The Sky is falling: Understanding and Coping with Phobias, Panic and other Compulsive Disorders.” Author Raeann Dumont. (Amazon rating 4 stars). $12.44.

“The Courage to Heal: A guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse.” Authors Ellen Bass & LauraDavis. (Amazon rating 4 stars). $15.30.

Cindy Lou:

“The Amethyst Heart.” Penelopy Stokes, (entertainment only), (Amazon rating 5 stars), $13.99.

“The Blue Bottle Club.” Penelopy Stokes, (entertainment only), (Amazon rating 3 stars), $10.19.

“A Child Called It: One Child’s Courage to Survive.” Dave Pelzer, (Amazon rating 4.5 stars), $9.56.

“Hind’s Feet on High Places: An Allegory Dramatizing the Journey Each of Us Must Take Before We Can Live in ‘High Places’.” Hannah Hurnard, (Amazon rating 4.5 stars), $6.99.

“The Lost Boy: A Foster Child’s Search for the Love of a Family.” Dave Pelzer, (Amazon rating 5 stars), $10.36.

“A Man Named Dave: A Story of Triumph and Forgiveness.” Dave Pelzer, (Amazon rating 4.5 stars), $9.60.

(all 3 of the [Dave Pelzer books] are about an abuse victim and his road to recovery. WELL RECOMMENDED!)

“She’s Come Undone.” Wally Lamb, (about a rape victim and how she overcomes), (Amazon rating 4 stars), $7.99.

“Woman Thou Art Loosed: Healing the Wounds of the Past.” T.D. Jakes, (Amazon rating 4.5 stars), $12.99.

“Woman Thou Art Loosed Workbook.” T. D. Jakes, (Amazon rating 5 stars), $11.99.


“The Wounded Heart.” Dr. Dan Allender. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $11.55.

“The Courage to Heal workbook.” Laura Davis. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $15.61.

“Allies in Healing.” Laura Davis & Ellen Bass. (Amazon rating 4 stars). $10.88.

“The Scarlet Thread.” Francine Rivers (nonfiction). (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $7.99.

“The Atonement Child.” Francine Rivers. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $10.35.

“This Present Darkness.” Frank Peretti. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $10.49.


The Art of Happiness. His Holiness The Dalai Lama, (Amazon rating 4 stars), $19.16.

“Man’s Search for Meaning” Viktor Frankl, Holocaust Survivor, Author/Psychotherapist. “Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible.”

“Notes to Myself.” Hugh Prather, (Amazon rating 4.5 stars), $6.29.

“Trauma and Recovery.” Judith Herman, (Amazon rating 5 stars), $12.00.

“Tuesdays with Morrie: An Old Man, a Young Man and Life’s Greatest Lesson.” Mitch Albom. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $12.60. During weekly meetings, Morrie teaches Mitch Albom essential lessons about life – lessons going on while his professor is dying of ALS. This book is poignant and moved me to think in new ways about my friends and loved ones. I learned even more about how I feel about community, family, aging, love, work, compassion, forgiveness and death.


“Songbird” by Eva Cassidy. $11.88.

“A Day Without Rain” by Enya. $13.28.

“If You See a Dream.” — Libby Roderick; Audio CD. (Amazon rating 5 stars). Our Price: $12.32.

“Music to Disappear In, Vol. 2.” Raphael (New Age). I love this CD. Wonderful and meditative music. Extremely creative and beautiful and transports you to a warm and soft place. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). Amazon List Price: $15.97, Our Price: $14.49, You Save: $1.48 (9%).

Patti Austin Live including the single “We’re All in This Together” by Steve Siler, theme song of GFW videos #3, 4, 5


For Male Survivors:

“Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse.” Hunter, Mic. Westminster, MD: Fawcett Books, 1991, (Amazon rating 5 stars), $8.80.

“Speaking Our Truth: Voices of Courage and Healing for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse.” King, Neal. N.Y: Harperpernnial, 1995, (Amazon rating 5 stars), $8.00.

Professional Readings:

“Integrated Treatment of Child Sexual Abuse: A Treatment and Training Manual.” Giarretto, Henry. Palo Alto, CA: Science Behavior Books, 1992, $25.00.

“Juvenile Sexual Offending: Causes, Consequences, and Correction.” Ryan, Gail D. San Francisco, CA:Jossey-Bass, 1997, (Amazon rating 4 stars), $45.00.

“Treating Child Sex Offenders and Victims: A Practical Guide.” Salter, Anna C. Newbury Park, CA. Sage Publications,1988, (Amazon rating 4 stars), $37.00.

General Reading:

“Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child, a Support Book.” Davis, Laura. N.Y: Harperperennial, 2000, (Amazon rating 3.5 stars), $12.80.

“Beginning to Heal: A First Book for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse.” Bass, Ellen & Davis, Laura. NY: Harper Collins, 1993, (Amazon rating 5 stars), $8.00.

“Ghosts in the Bedroom: A Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors.” Graber, Ken. Deerfield Beach FL: HealthCommunications, 1991, (Amazon rating 4 stars), $8.05.

“The Healing Power of Play.” Gil, Eliana. NY: GuilfordPress, 1991, (Amazon rating 5 stars), $21.00.

“How Long Does It Hurt: A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends and Their Families.” Mather, Cynthia. San Francisco CA: Jossey-Bass, 1994 (Amazon rating 4.5 stars), $13.20.


“I Can’t get over it.” Aphrodite Matsakis, (Amazon rating 5 stars), $13.56. Great resource and has exercises/questions for you to work on as well as relaxation techniques. Very helpful.

“Death and Dying: Understanding and Care.” Barbara Backer, Natalie Hannon, Noreen Russell.

“On Death and Dying.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $9.60. I found this very helpful especially for the field of work I am in; helps you comprehend grieving, how to recognize the need for it and to process the emotions properly.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder-A complete guide to PTSD Aphrodite Matsakis, Ph.D. Author, New Harbinger Publications, Inc., 1994, $49.95. It is what it says, complete treatment, highly recommendable.

“Trauma and Addiction; Ending the Cycle of Pain Through Emotional Literacy,” by Tian Dayton, Phd., (Amazon rating 5 stars). $10.36.
I found this book quite helpful. I truly feel it is worth a read. I just touched on a few topics to give you an idea of the content. It explained why you feel the way you do, or don’t feel for that matter; it just answered a lot of questions for me. Although it is geared for alcoholics (of which I am not and still found the book a great resource), it is also trauma based and talks about PTSD a great deal: talks about unresolved childhood trauma and how that affects our adult life; how trauma periods undermine healthy relationships; what the typical personality characteristics are that you are left with because of trauma, (explains why you are the way you are and that because of those experiences, you are normal for what you went through); explains why you feel “stuck,” and how trauma affects your physical as well as your emotional self. Most importantly, it attempts to show you how you can effectively work this through.

Traumatic Stress; The effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body, and Society.” Bessel A. van der Kolk, Alexander C. McFarlane, and Lars Weisaeth, Editors, (Amazon rating 4.5 stars), $60.00.

“Trauma and Recovery.” Judith Herman, (Amazon rating 5 stars), $12.00.

“Trust After Trauma : A Guide to Relationships for Survivors and Those Who Love Them.” Aphrodite Matsatkis. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $12.76. Easy read, gives you exercises to work on; guides you through everything step by step; very forgiving.


Beyond These Walls: The True Story of a Lost Child’s Journey to a Whole Life” by Rachel Gunner, and Hanna Gabriele. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $16.95.

Black Swan: The Twelve Lessons of Abandonment Recovery” by Susan Anderson. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $12.06.

“Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You” by Patricia Evans. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $10.36.

I think the book would be great for anyone who suspects they are being controlled in any kind of relationship. It will give helpful understanding of the dynamics a controller uses and help them to escape the “spell” of control. As with Evans other books this one displays tremendous insight and is definitely helpful…I would even say essential. As Evans mentions it would also be beneficial to the person who suspects they are a controller.

“Courageous Healing: How to Fully and Quickly Recover from Traumatic Experiences or Feelings of Anger and Resentment” by Fred Craver, Ph.D. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $16.95.

“Dark Water: Stress After Trauma” by Opal Rose. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $11.25.

“Falling Through the Earth: A Memoir” by Danielle Trussoni. New York: Henry Holt and Company, LLC. 2006. $11.20.

“If I Am Missing or Dead: A Sister’s Story of Love, Murder, and Liberation” by Janine Latus. New York: Simon & Schuster. 2007. $5.99.

“Life After MPD” by Debra Lighthart PhD. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $19.95.

“Lost and Found” by Jacqueline Sheehan. (New York, NY: Harper Collins Publisher. 2007) (Amazon rating 4.5 stars) $11.16.

“A Matter of Time” by Nancy Rae. (Amazon rating 5 star). $16.16.

“My Journey to Peace with PTSD” by Lady Cerelli. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $14.00.

“The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment” by Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman, Robert M. Pressman. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $35.60.

“Peaceful Heart: A Woman’s Journey of Healing” by Aimee Jo Martin. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $13.95.

“Rising From the Ashes: A Spiritual Healing Through Poetry” by Jolainne BoRienne. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $19.99.

“A Rumor of Angels: Quotations for Living, Dying & Letting Go” by Gail, Perry Johnston (Editor), Jill, Perry Rabideau (Editor). (Amazon rating 5 stars). $11.25.

“Sibling Grief: Healing After the Death of a Sister or Brother” by P. Gill White. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $13.95.

“Unfragmented Dreams” by Saji and On. West Conshohocken, PA: Infinity
Publishing Company. 2006. $15.95.

“The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to recognize it and how to respond.” by Patricia Evans. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $8.76.

“Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out: On relationship and recovery.” by Patricia Evans. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $8.76.

“Women Who Hurt Themselves: A Book of Hope and Understanding” by Dusty Miller. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $12.25.

“You Can Too! A Mind, Body, Spirit Connection for Weight Loss” by Jacqueline Garrick.Wheaton, MD: Resilient Press. 2005. $17.95.



“Affirmations of the Inner Child.” by Rokelle Lerner. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $6.95.
“Blow Away The Black Clouds.” by Florence Littauer. $8.99.
“Changing Your Life Without Getting Out of Bed: The Ultimate Nap Book.” by Sark. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $9.95.
“Chicken Soup for the Mother’s Soul: Stories to Open the Hearts and Rekindle the Spirits of Mothers.” by Jennifer Read Hawthorne and Mari Shimoff. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $9.95.
“Coming Home to Your Body: 365 Simple Ways to Nourish Yourself Inside and Out.” by Carmen Renee Berry. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $4.99.
The Deepest Wound : How a Journey to El Salvador Led to Healing from Mother-Daughter Incest Linda Crockett. $23.95.
“Recreating Your Self: A Practical Guide to Identifying and Fufilling Your Best Potential Through Imaging and Self-Hynosis.” by Nancy J. Napier. $89.95.
“Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy.” by Sarah Ban Breathnach. $14.70.

“Succulent Wild Woman: Dancing With Your Wonder Full Self.” by Sark. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $11.20.
“The Tao of Pooh.” by Benjamine Hoff. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $9.56.
“You Can Heal Your Life.” by Louise L. Hay. (Amazon rating 5 stars). $12.57.


Amy Grant – House of Love. (Amazon rating 4 stars). $11.98.
Enya – Shepherd Moons. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $13.99.
Mariah Carey – Music Box. (Amazon rating 4.5 stars). $11.98.


Dying, A book of Comfort” By Pat McNees

The Mourning Handbook” By Helen Fitzgerald

“Final Gifts” By Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley

“Life After Loss” By Bob Deits

“Beyond Grief” By Carol Studacher

“Help for the Hard Times” By Earl Hipp

“How We Grieve, Relearning the World” By Thomas Attig

Inspirational Books:

1. “Small Miracles” By Yitta Halberstam and Judith Levinthal

2. “Life After Life” By Dr. Raymond A. Moody

Life changing books for me!!! Very transformational for me!

“Losing a Parent” By Fiona Marshall

“How To Go on Living When someone You Love Dies” By Therese Rando, Ph.D.

This book is especially wonderful and has an EXCELLENT section on the sudden and unexpected death of loved one.

3. “List Your Self, List Making as the way to Self-Discovery” by Illeene Segalove

This book was very special for me. It really helps with self worth and self esteem The exercises and lists are so healing. Thsi author has ideas and exercises you would never even think of that are tremendously helpful!! The exercises brought a lot of feelings of relief once I did the exercises and got it out. Things seem to be a mountain in your mind, but once you get them out on paper, the clarification is amazing and things are in perspective